Grief is part of the process of healing for those who have experienced a death, a personal or family loss (job, relationship, tragedy), it is also something we deal with when recognizing worry and anxiety within ourselves and our experience of the world around us. I was told my children had emotional and behavioral issues strong enough that they needed to be removed from traditional brick and mortar public school for a while. What was not recognized, and what I needed to point out to school counselors in order to receive proper help is that their dad died when they were barely 5 and 3 years old. Since their issues in school were recognized about the 2nd grade there was a reluctance to make the correlation. Luckily, I was able to find two therapists that listened to me when I suggested the connection. The counseling took a turn from trying to manage behavior to recognizing the grief/abandonment and anxiety around the worry mom would also disappear. There is a little more to it than that, but that experience has sent me on a journey to not only recognize the life that we are missing, the worries that we all have for various reasons, but to recognize that loss is not only in the death of a loved one. Loss is also change. It is a constant readjustment in our world, and so many of us don’t recognize or have the ability to find the support that is necessary for our healing. We live in a society that colors loss, death and anxiety as something we simply need to get a grip on, and that is not always the case. Recognizing the meaning in our own lives, even within the loss and change is a way in which we can honor the life of a loved one no longer with us, and ourselves in a change that takes us away from what we are accustomed.
We grieve because we have loved. We have a connection to someone, to something, or to a way of life that is no longer a possibility. There is no right or wrong way to move through any type of grief. There is no one death or situation that is more important than the other. That is all from the perspective and the life of the person grieving. Grieving brings up unresolved trauma, pain and anxiety. Grieving may also be a breath of fresh air, and a release. Each person and every situation is different.
Links below are for more information. You will also find a link to my scheduling page if you wish to schedule an individual/private session. Private sessions are to honor the uniqueness of you, your situation and your healing. Please check back every so often as new resources are added and more services for both individual and group healing and coaching times. Also coming soon: Link to Anxiety and QiGong Moving Meditation.
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www.aboutgrief.com – Understanding loss and grief
https://adaa.org/tips Anxiety and Depression Association of America
www.grief.com – Resources from David Kessler
www.lossofaparent.com – Death of a parent
www.dougy.org – The Dougy Center (Helping children and Young Adults)
www.parentforever.com – Death of a child and sibling
www.griefsuicide.com – Death of a loved one by suicide
988lifeline.org – 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
nami.org – National Alliance of Mental Illness
afsp.org – American Foundation of Suicide Prevention
adultchildren.org – Adult Children of Alcoholics® & Dysfunctional Families
al-anon.org – Al-Anon Family Groups
https://www.highmarkcaringplace.com/ – The Caring Place